Meet Lizzy, the lizard. She looks like a dragon. And she certainly thinks she is one. She thinks she is big and terrifying. But in reality she is rather small. Look at her tiny wings. There is no way she will ever be able to fly with those. She is almost cute. Which bugs her alot.
So she makes sure that she behaves like a horrible dragon. She can be quite a pain, cause she comments on everything I do. And I mean EVERY thing. And her comments are not the nicest.
I get to hear things like
„You can not do this. Stop it! Right now! You will mess it up. You will make a fool out of yourself.“
„You can not make art! Who do you think you are?! You are not talented at all. People are gonna laugh about you!“
„You should not write this. Stop it. Noone wants to read that. And if someone does reads it, they will think you are stupid. Noone will take you seriously.“
Oh, I could go on … and on … and on …
She alwas tells me that I am not good enough, I can not do things, I am not smart enough, I will never succeed ….
Does that sound familiar?
For a long time I actually had no idea that everyone has their own „Lizzy“. Every single person on this earth has this little voice inside them, that critizes everything they do. And that little inner critic never rests, never goes away, will never leave. Wow, that was big news to me.
As I could not get rid of my Lizzy I decided to make my peace with her. I learned that she does not actually want to harm me. No, she wants to protect me. She is just scared. For me.
So I named her Lizzy. Because that sounds cute. And it reminds me that she is just a lizard. Not a dragon! So nothing to be afraid of.
Also I made myself this actual Lizzy, so I can carry her with me. All the time. And whenever she starts to tell me all that negative crap I can look at her cute face and remember that she is just scared. And that I should never ever believe what she is telling me!
I can pet her, calm her and tell her that everything will be fine. That I can do this. (Whatever „this“ is.) And … it works!
So I thought, well, if it works for me, maybe it works for you as well? So if you want to have your own „Lizzy“, you can buy one in my shop. (Update: All sold!) Of course yours will not be called Lizzy. You have to name it yourself. Which by the way is super-helpful even if you do not buy your own lizard/dragon from me. ;-)
So, what is your inner critic called?
P.S. Just a little warning: The lizards/dragons in my shop are limited. I only have the ones available that are in the shop right now. And I will not make new ones any time soon. If ever. Thought you should know that. :-)
PP.S. If you want to know more about your inner lizard … err inner critic… I recommend reading „Steering by starlight“ by Martha Beck. Awesome book! Seriously. Go read it. NOW!Sunday whispers is a little series. My goal is to post something shortish but inspiring for you each Sunday – hopefully together with some art – so that you have a little incentive to slow down, reflect and think. I know how crazy weeks can be, but after all, it is Sunday. :-) Enjoy and let me know what you think. You can find the other Sunday whisper posts HERE.